Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts

Wednesday, 18 June 2014

Why do Christians blame rape victims?

Christian university student/rape victim told to look for her sin as the cause (RawStory)
 
Catholic Church [get] out of my body (FEMEN)
According to an investigative report from Al Jazeera America, rape victims searching for help at Bob Jones [Christian] University in Greenville, South Carolina, were told to repent and seek out their own “root sin” that caused them to be raped.
 
Within the past year BJU has opened its own investigation into sexual abuse and rape, and now former students who were victimized are coming forward to tell their stories about life on a campus where they were shamed and told to keep their stories to themselves.
 
Rape, abuse, incest (rainn.org)
Coming from a conservative Mennonite family, Katie Landry, who at age 19 had never even held hands with a boy, was raped multiple times by her supervisor at her summer job. Two years later, haunted by the attacks, and attending Bob Jones University, she sought help from then dean of students, Jim Berg.
 
BJU rape survivor Katie Landry (AJA)
According to Landry,  Berg asked whether she’d been drinking or smoking pot and if she had been “impure.” He then brought up her “root sin.”
 
“He goes, ‘Well, there’s always a sin under other sin. There’s a root sin,’” Landry explained. “And he said, ‘We have to find the sin in your life that caused your rape.’ And I just ran.”
 
“He just confirmed my worst nightmare,” she added. “It was something I had done. It was something about me. It was my fault.”

Christian conservatives: Rape? Were you asking for it? That's what ya get for having sex!
 
Republicans: Military-rape? Man up, soldier!
Landry eventually withdrew from the school and didn’t tell anyone else for five more years.
 
In interviews with Al Jazeera, other victims of abuse related how Biblical scripture was used to lay blame for the rapes on their own sins and that their trauma was a sign that they were fighting God and would never be at peace until they forgave their rapists.
 
Called the “Fortress of Fundamentalism, ” Bob Jones University’s philosophical approach to almost all mental problems, beyond medical issues, is that they are the result of sin.
  • [Rationalist, materialist, left-leaning readers may not like to hear it but: Unskillful karma from past lives does cause one many troubles in many ways in other lives. To blame oneself for what was done in previous lives, however, leads to a lot of confusion about identity, justice, root causes and conditions of anything. We are not in the past. The present does not contain all of the causes, but it usually does contain triggers, and we can do something about guiding our attention and intention now. The working out of karma is very mysterious and impossibly complicated. Make merit to counteract it.]
Even R.J. has more compassion
In a 1996 book, Becoming an Effective Christian Counselor, written by former BJU Dean of Education Walter Fremont and his wife, counselors are instructed to emphasize that the blame lies with the abuser.

However, the authors also state that being sexually assaulted is not an excuse for “sinful feelings” of discontentment, hate, fear, and especially, bitterness, calling unresolved anger “rebellion and bitterness against God.”
  • [That's true. That's right. Those things are our karma, our action in response to someone else's grave misdeeds. Each being is the owner of one's own karma. Rapists have the karma of rape, which does NOT necessarily manifest as being raped although it can. It manifests in many terrible and unwelcome ways now and in many future lives. But are we performing the mental-karma of resentment, hate, fear, anger, sadness, and so on? Although most of us cannot normally exercise control over our emotions and reactions, we can gain such control. We can be mindful and not react to what comes up. If we fail to be mindful then react to what typically comes up for victims, we sink ourselves worse than the initial injury.]
Every 2 minutes in the U.S. (codepinkla.org)
Previously Al Jazeera America reported on a BJU student named identified only as Lydia, who had been raped off campus and, seeking help, reported it to the school authorities only to eventually be expelled for dwelling upon it and questioning the schools handling of the incident. [Such indifference by the school is abominable!] More

Saturday, 18 January 2014

Opposing SEX, promoting violence (video)

"Lone Survivor" - a Hollywood war glorification propaganda reel about the US invasion and occupation of Afghanistan based but not telling the actual story of Operation Red Wing.
  
Stop resisting me, stop resisting me (BS)
Torrance, Los Angeles LAPD Officer Brian McGee will not be charged for attempting to murder a white surfer after ramming his vehicle during the dramatic "manhunt" for accused black ex-LAPD Officer Dorner, who allegedly went on a rampage against other members of the LAPD.

Better wrong doing right than right doing wrong
That is the allegation, but we will never know because Dorner was summarily executed by fellow police who turned SoCal into an obvious police state. (Usually it is just a covert one).
Israeli war criminal Sharon dies (TYT)
This was done to prevent an adequate investigation that may have turned up damning evidence against the Department. "Shoot first, ask questions later." You may not get many answers but, hey, that's how it goes when working in a violent culture of killer cops.

(TYT) Ana Kasparian and John Iadarola break down some criminal police 
Citizens can now police the police (ACLU)
Fullerton, Orange County Officer Joe Wolfe, who helped fellow gang members bash in the face of a schizophrenic homeless man before beating him to death, had all charges against him dropped after fellow killers Manny Ramos and Jay Cicinelli were acquitted during their separate trial.
 
Tampa, Florida's retired policeman Curtis Reeves, former Chief of Security for Busch Gardens, murdered a man for having the audacity to text before the movie "Lone Survivor" (see above).
 
Said it about health plans, said it about NSA
He also shot a woman after popcorn was allegedly thrown in his direction, which may have touched his large toe. Reeves says that this gave him the right to shoot the couple, given that he could (later) say he felt "threatened" and thereby go scot-free for his crimes.
 
That's funny! NSA surveillance? "If you like your freedom, you can keep your freedom" is the best summary of President Obama's false speech about "reforming" USA/NSA spying.

The precept against killing
Buddha and aum (Brooke Montes/flickr)
Our world is plagued by conflicts, economic and ethnic, racial and religious, political and ideological, planned and carried out by the military-industrial complex.

"Terrorism" serves as the great pretext to launch all manner of state-sponsored terror thanks to the CIA, NSA, NSC, FBI, DHS, and other spies.
  
Israel's illegal Jewish settlements (DN)
Wars, "low-level kinetic actions" (a euphemism for bloody battles, invasions, and massacres), and genocides are more than just a looming threat. They are an active reality all over the globe.
 
No sex, please, just killing (govexec.com)
The threat of nuclear weapons being used causes worldwide anxiety. The manufacture and sale of weaponry is a thriving industry. So are there wars because there are weapons, or are there weapons because there are  wars? Who manufactures industrial-scale conflicts?

Saturday, 11 January 2014

Abusing the Buddha (sutra)

Seth Auberon and Amber Larson, Wisdom Quarterly based on Acharya Buddharakkhita translation of the Discourse on "Abuse" or "Reviling" (Akkosa Sutra, SN 7.2)
Anger motivated by delusion, wrong view, greed, frustration, fear...is a terrible thing (PB)
Cartoon anger and cruelty. Like it or lump it! (bananatriangle.com)

  
Afghan Gandhara Buddha Maitreya (Boonlieng/flickr)
Once the Blessed One was staying at Rajagaha [the "Royal Ringed City," capital of Magadha] in the Bamboo Grove near the Squirrels' Feeding Ground.

The Brahmin Akkosa-Bharadvaja [Akkosaka* of the clan of Bharadvaja Brahmins, whose nickname literally means "The Reviler" according to M. Walshe] heard this about his brother:
 
"The Brahmin Bharadvaja, it seems, has become a monk under the great ascetic Gotama (the Buddha, Siddhartha Gautama)."

Angry and peeved, he went to see the Blessed One. He approached, abused, and reviled him in foul and harsh words.

But reviled, the Blessed One spoke gently to the Brahmin Akkosa Bharadvaja: "Well, Brahmin, do friends, acquaintances, relatives, kinfolk, and guests visit you?"
 
"Yes, Gotama, sometimes they do."
 
"Well, Brahmin, do you not offer them, snacks, food, and drink?"
 
"Yes, Gotama, sometimes I do offer them snacks, food, and drink."
 
"But, Brahmin, what if they do not accept it? Whose is it?"
 
"If, Gotama, they do not accept it, I keep it. It is mine."
 
"Even so, Brahmin, you are abusing those who do not abuse, are angry with those who do not get angry, are quarreling with those who do not quarrel. As we do not accept it, Brahmin, all of this is yours. When, Brahmin, one abuses in return when abused, repays anger with anger, and quarrels back when quarreled with, this is called 'associating with each other in mutual exchange.' This kind of association and exchange we do not engage in. Therefore, Brahmin, you keep it. It is yours."
 
"The king and his people believe that the ascetic Gotama is an arhat [a fully enlightened person], and yet the good Gotama can get angry!"
 
The Buddha replied in verse:

"Where is anger for one freed from anger,
Who is subdued and lives perfectly equanimous,
Who truly knowing is wholly freed,
Supremely tranquil and equipoised?
"One who repays an angry person in kind
Is worse than the angry person;
Who does not repay anger in kind, 
That person alone wins the battle hard to win:
"One promotes the welfare of both, 
One's own as well as that of the other. 
Knowing that the other person is angry, 
One mindfully maintains one's peace
 
"And endures the anger of both,
One's own as well as that of the other,
Even if the people ignorant of true wisdom
Consider one a fool thereby."
 
When the Blessed One proclaimed this, the Brahmin Akkosa Bharadvaja responded:

Going forth (Nyanamoli Bhikkhu/Google Plus)
"Wonderful, O venerable Gotama! Herewith I go to the venerable Gotama (Buddha) for guidance, to the Teaching (Dharma) for guidance, and to the Noble Order (Arya Sangha) for guidance!

"Most venerable sir, may I have the privilege of receiving from the revered Gotama the initial and higher monastic ordinations?"
 
The Brahmin Akkosa Bharadvaja received from the Blessed One the initial and higher monastic ordinations. Then in no long time, Venerable Akkosa Bharadvaja -- living apart, secluded, diligent, zealous, and unrelenting -- reached that incomparable consummation of enlightenment for which those of noble families, having abandoned the household life, take to the life of wandering (the left-home life).

With direct knowledge he realized the ultimate, here and now, and lived having access to it. He saw with supernormal knowledge-and-vision: "Ceased is rebirth, lived is the higher life, completed is the spiritual task, and henceforth there is nothing higher to be achieved." Venerable Akkosa Bharadvaja, indeed, became one of the noble ones.

HOW TO abandon anger
Acharya Buddharakkhita (translator) BPS/ACI
Positive Response (Wisdom Quarterly)
The booklet Positive Response: How to Meet Evil With Good contains a collection of short sutras by the Buddha and a passage from the ancient Path of Purification, each preceded by a brief introduction by the translator. The unifying theme is called a "positive response" for dealing with provocative people and situations. The ancient texts set forth practical techniques taught by the Buddha for anyone to overcome anger, resentment, hatred, and other such defilements. Moreover, it shows how it is possible to cultivate elevating mental qualities like forbearance, goodwill, amity, and compassion. Anyone intent on spiritual development will find these practical instructions a great help to cleansing the mind/heart thereby unfolding its great hidden potentials. More

*Why was Akkosa angry?
PaliKanon.com
Angry and abusive (techenclave.com)
Akkosaka-Bhāradvāja was a Brahmin from Rājagaha (Rajgir). He was incensed that his eldest brother -- a member of the Bhāradvāja Brahmin clan and probably its head (KS.i.201, n. 4, see also Dhānañjānī -- had become a Buddhist monk after visiting the Buddha. He paid the Buddha a visit to abuse and insult him. But like his brother, he asked for ordination and later became an arhat (S.i.161f.; MA.i.808). "Akkosaka" was a nickname given to him by the Sangītikārā to distinguish him as the author of a lampoon of a large number of verses against the Buddha (SA.i.177). Asurindaka-Bhāradvāja was his younger brother (SA.i.178); he had two others, Sundarī-Bhāradvāja and Bilangika-Bhāradvāja, who also became disciples (lit. "hearers") who later also became arhats (DhA.iv.163).

Thursday, 26 September 2013

Beat me, my love! (video)

United we all stand, women and men, or surely divided we fall (femen.org)
WARNING: Violence against women, sexism, nudity, exploitative mainstream media images!
 
54% of abusers are boyfriends (Garry Knight/Slutwalk)
"Little girls of about six or seven were asked, 'What do you like to do?' Then some time later the same question was asked but in a different form: 'What do little girls like to do?'"

I've got 54321. I've got a red pair of high heels on. Tumble me over. It doesn't take much. Tumble me over. Tumble me; push! In my red high heels I've no control. The rituals of repression are so old. You can do what you like; there'll be no reprisal. I'm yours, yes, I'm yours. It's my means of survival.
 
Alert, everyone, alert! (femen.org)
I've got 54321. Come on, my love, I know you're strong. Push me hard. Make me stagger. The pain in my back just doesn't matter. You force-hold me above the ground. I can't get away. My feet are bound. So I'm bound to say that I'm bound to stay. Well, today I look so good just like I know I should. My breasts to tempt inside my bra, my face is painted like a movie star. I've studied my flaws in your reflection and put them to rights with savage correction. I've turned my statuesque perfection and shone it over in your direction.
 
She was asking for it? (Slutwalk)
So come on, darling, make me yours. Trip me over. Show me the floor. Tease me, tease me, make me stay. In my red high heels, I can't get away. I'm trussed and bound like an oven-ready bird. But I bleed without dying, and I won't say a word. Slice my flesh, and I'll ride the scar. Put me into gear like your lady car. Drive me fast. Crash me, crazy! I'll rise from the wreckage as fresh as a daisy. These wounds leave furrows as they heal. I've traveled them; they're red and real. I know them well. They're part of me, my birth, my sex, my history.
 
Death to patriarchy, sexism, and inequality (femen.org/en/about)
  
Topless protest for women's rights (examiner)
They grew with me, my closest friend. My pain's my own. My pain's my end. Clip my wings so you know where I am. I can't get lost while you're my man. Tame me so I know your call. I've stabbed my heels so I am tall. I've bound my twisted falling fall, beautiful mute against the wall. Beautifully mutilated as I fall. Use me; don't lose me.
 
American culture in Egypt
I've got 54321. I've got a red pair of high heels on. Strap my ankles, break my heels, make me kneel, make me feel. Turn, turn, turn like a clockwork doll. Put in your key, and give me a whirl. Tease me, tease me, the reason to play. In my red high heels, I can't get away. I'll be your bonsai, your beautiful bonsai, your black-eyed bonsai, erotically rotting. Will my tiny feet fit your desire? Warped and tied, I walk on fire.
 
Burn me out; twist my wrists. I promise not to shout. Beat me with your fists. Squeeze me, squeeze me, make me feel. In my red high heels, I'm an easy kill. Tease me, tease me, make me see. You're the only one I need to be me. Thank you, will you take me? Thank you, will you make me? Thank you, will you break me? Use me; don't lose me. Taste me; don't waste me. Use, lose, taste, waste.