Showing posts with label body image. Show all posts
Showing posts with label body image. Show all posts

Thursday, 9 January 2014

SEX: lessons from the man with two PENISES

Ashley Wells, Pat Macpherson, Dhr. Seven, Wisdom Quarterly; Caroline Bankoff (NY Mag)
The way to approach any subject is with a modicum of grace, aplomb, and discretion.
 
 
The subject, who went by the screen name DoubleDickDude and posted a couple of obligatory (and deeply NSFW) photos [BRACE YOURSELF BEFORE CLICKING] as proof, sounds as confident as you'd expect a dude with two dicks to be (very).

We luv'd screwin y'all, but this ain't about us!
And because the mostly single-dick-having population of Reddit was exactly as curious about this guy's life as you'd expect them to be (very), the questions went on for hours.
 
First, the basics: DoubleDickDude's condition is "Diphallia, [and it is] not an absorbed twin. It's not genetic or inherited." 

(Needless to say, it is very rare.) He identifies as bisexual and is currently "in a committed relationship with a man and a woman" who, he later explained, were "a couple before they mutually started dating me." More

Woman living with two vaginas


Hazel Jones, 27, has a one-in-a-million medical condition which led to her being born with two fully-formed vaginas. She is so at ease with her body that she goes to sex clubs with her husband. She told ITV1's This Morning hosts Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield she was 18 when she was diagnosed with uterus didelphys.

Jones, of High Wycombe, Bucks, did not realize she was different until her periods started at 14. She said: "I told friends. They looked even more confused than me." She went to hospital four years later to learn the truth. She added: "I thought it was amazing."
 
Yin to yang: yonis, lingams are curious things
Jones told The Sun she and hubby Riki visited fetish clubs, explaining: "It shows how relaxed I am. My quirky condition does not make me shy or hold me back. In fact, it's something I celebrate."

"I have two holes, one to the left and one to the right," she explains. "They look like a little yin-yang symbol! The extra piece of flesh between them becomes more visible depending on how I position my body, and how turned on I am. Sometimes it's hidden by my labia. At other times, it stands proud by about a centimeter."

Her wombs "take turns" to have a period each month, and tampons didn't always work because sometimes she was inserting them into the wrong bleedin' vagina!"

The Internet Hates Women
Michel Martin (Tell Me More, NPR.org)
Porn and pop gossip aren't doing us any favors.
Anyone who posts something online runs the risk of getting negative feedback [from trolls]. But for some female writers, things are taken to an extreme level. Host Michel Martin talks with Amanda Hess about her article, "Why Women Aren't Welcome on the Internet." Writers Bridget Johnson and Mikki Kendall also discuss how they've handled the harassment and threats -- on and off line.

Amanda Hess (bio website Sex With Amanda Hess) in Pacific Standard magazine says: Women are subjected to a level of abuse that is, in fact, more pervasive and more vicious than that directed at men.

She says, in short, "We have been thinking about Internet harassment all wrong." And Amanda Hess is with us now from Southern California Public Radio (SCPR.org) in Pasadena. LISTEN (17:41)

Buddhism and Sex
Maurice O'Connell Walshe (Buddhist Publication Society)
The Buddha with knowledge and vision (Amrit Vismay/Oshodhara/flickr.com/WQ)
 
This is an age in which sexual matters are discussed with great openness. There are many who are puzzled to know what the Buddhist attitude towards sex is. And it is therefore to be hoped that the following guidelines may be found helpful towards an understanding.
 
It is, of course, true to say that Buddhism, in keeping with the principle of the Middle Way, would advocate neither extreme puritanism nor extreme permissiveness. But this, as a guiding principle without further specification, may not seem sufficiently helpful for most people.
  • [NOTE: The "middle" in Middle Way is not a compromise, but seeing the deficiency in both extremes and avoiding them. This is clear when the Buddha declared that he found enlightenment after avoiding indulging in sensual extremes, which he had engaged in as a spoiled prince, and after avoiding indulging in severe austerities, which had had engaged in as a wandering ascetic searching for freedom from disappointment. See the Buddha's first sutra where he sets in motion the wheel of the Dharma by making this distinction.]
In the first place, we must distinguish between the rules undertaken by Buddhist monastics for their own conduct, and any guiding principles for ordinary lay Buddhists. More

Wednesday, 2 October 2013

The Beauty Queen (sutra)

Amber Larson, Dhr. Seven, Ashley Wells, Wisdom Quarterly, based on Ven. Thanissaro translations, Sedaka Sutta "At Sedaka" (SN 47.20) and Ittha Sutta, "What is Welcome" (AN 5.43)
Beauty contest winner and sextortion victim Cassidy Wolf (Tim Harbaugh/AP)
All beauty pageants lead up to the ultimate competition for Miss World (Firdia Lisnawati/AP)
  
Thai beauty (A1eatoire/flickr.com)
Thus have I heard. Once the Blessed One was residing among the Sumbhas, in the Sumbhan town of Sedaka. There the Blessed One addressed the monastics, "Meditators!"

"Yes, venerable sir," the monastics replied. Then the Blessed One said:
 
"Suppose a large crowd of people comes thronging together saying, 'The beauty queen! The beauty queen!' Suppose further that the beauty queen is highly accomplished, a singer and dancer, such that an even greater crowd comes thronging saying, 'The beauty queen is singing! The beauty queen is dancing!' 

Afghan beauty (Nat Geo)
"Now suppose someone comes along, desiring to live, shrinking from [even the thought of] death, craving pleasure, abhorring pain. The crowd says to that person:

"'Now look here, friend: Take this bowl filled to the brim with oil and carry it on your head between this great crowd and the beauty queen. Someone with a raised sword will follow right behind you, and wherever you spill even a drop of oil, right there will your head be cut off.' 

"What do you think, meditators? Will that person, not paying attention to the bowl of oil, likely give in to external distractions?"
 
The Buddha's mother, Maya Devi, dreaming of conception (DharmaDeshana)
   
The Philippines are full of beauty
"No, venerable sir!"
 
"I give you this parable to convey a meaning: The bowl filled to the brim with oil stands for mindfulness immersed in the body. Train yourselves: 'We will develop mindfulness immersed in the body. We will pursue it, hand it the reins, and take it as a basis, grounding it, steadying it, consolidating it, cultivating it well.' That is how you should train yourselves."

Miss World 2013 in Bali, Indonesia (AP/Firdia Lisnawati/thejakartapost.com)
 
Beauty is Welcome
"What is Welcome" (Ittha Sutra, AN 5.43)
Megan Young Miss Philippines is now Miss World
Anathapindika the [millionaire Buddhist] householder went to the Blessed One, bowed, and sat respectfully to one side. Seated there the Blessed One said to him: 
 
"These five things, householder, are welcome, agreeable, pleasant, and hard to obtain in the world:
  1. Longevity is welcome, agreeable, pleasant, hard to obtain in the world
  2. Beauty is welcome, agreeable, pleasant, hard to obtain in the world.
  3. Happiness...
  4. Status....
  5. Rebirth in heaven(s)....
I Used to Care
"But I say these things are not to be obtained by prayer [petitioning] or wishing. If they were, who would not have them? 

"It is not fitting for a follower of noble ones [the enlightened, the exalted] who desires longevity to pray or to delight in praying for it. Instead, one should follow a path of practice leading to longevity human or divine. By doing so, one will attain longevity.
 
"It is not fitting for a follower of the noble ones who desires beauty to pray or delight in praying for it. Instead, one should follow a path of practice leading to beauty human or divine. By doing so, one will attain beauty. [The same is said for happiness, status, and superior rebirths.]
 
"Long life, loveliness, influence,
Honor, heaven, high birth --
For those who delight therein,
The wise praise heedfully making merit.
 
"The wise thereby,
Heedful, acquire right
A twofold security, here and beyond,
Breaking through, indeed one is wise.
  
Our Indian Miss America 2014
Miss America, Nina Davuluri, responds to racist remarks...Too "Asian" for TV?
  
Thinking: Thank you, Goddess Lakshmi?
We would have voted for Sacajawea, the beauty on the American dollar, but the gatekeepers went East Indian rather than Native American. So much for indigenous beauty at the national US pageant. 

Instead, a so-so Nina Davuluri was crowned Miss America 2014 in New York on September 15, 2013. She is the first female of Indian descent ever to take the tiara.

Native (faceofgold.com)
But racist America will not stand for diversity in beauty (using international standards) when all those beauties of Northern European descent are sitting at home getting chubby eating CheesyPoofs and watching cartoons (before purging). And we sure aren't going to stand for an indigenous American winner! We would sooner go around the world and honor anyone whose parents migrated here from far off land than recognize the amazing beauty already here before the arrival of the genocidal conquerors and colonial slave rulers.

Selling out to The Man to get ahead in America: the Julie Chen story on CIA-controlled CNN
 
(CNN) She's the second consecutive New York beauty queen to take the Miss America title, but she's the first Indian-American to wear the national crown -- tiara -- atop her perfectly coiffed head
 
"I was the first Indian Miss New York, and I'm so proud to be the first Indian Miss America," Nina Davuluri said after she won.  Davuluri's resume goes considerably deeper than her heritage, however.
 
Mindlessly racist tweets begin right away
The 24-year-old native of Fayetteville, New York was on the dean's list and earned the Michigan Merit Award and National Honor Society nods while studying at the University of Michigan, where she graduated with a degree in brain behavior and cognitive science.

Her father, who emigrated from India 30 years ago, is a gynecologist, and Davuluri said she'd like to become a physician one day as well. More